Monday, November 8, 2010

I think I can safely say our life has gotten pretty easy.  Our boys sleep in, get dressed on their own (for the most part), they can play outside alone, I have free time ……then about one year Joey and I started feeling a nudge.  This little nudge was from God, and He was laying a burden on our hearts to DO something.  Something more than singing, missions work, praying, reading our bibles, going to ballgames ….The phrase kept popping up here and there, “How do you save 147 million orphans?? ….ONE child at a time”.  “No, Lord, I don’t think we can do this.  We surely can’t afford it!  Our boys sleep through the night, are independent, life has begun getting easier,” we kept arguing.  But once your feel that tug from the Lord, one MUST be obedient to the calling.
We began working through Children’s Home Society to become foster parents, as we knew there were children right here in NC that needed help.  It made sense to us one year ago.  We jumped thru hoops, took a 30 hour parenting class, became licensed in May 2010, and then waited.  I even got a little girl room ready for her. 
Through prayer, we realized this was not what God had in mind for us.  I am a pediatric nurse practitioner, and see children every day, well and sick in a local office.  In the month of August, God placed several families who recently adopted from other countries into my path at work.  I heard their stories of joy, saw their sweet faces, and heard their stories.  I started mentioning these children to Joey.  We were both moved, but scared.  Then we thought, “How will we pick the right agency”? “Where would we get the money?”  Within one week at work, I saw three different adoptive families and asked which agency they used and if they would recommend them and ALL THREE families used Gladney Adoption Agency in Texas and NY.  (Thanks Lord for your guidance in all!!)
We then looked at countries, and were both drawn to China, but the wait for a healthy baby is FOUR years.  So we called Gladney and spoke to their Asia coordinator who talked to us about the “Waiting Children” in China.  These children have a range of medical needs, from minor to more complicated, but are considered “unadoptable” because of it.  How awful!!  Either one of my boys could have been born with cleft lip, palate, club foot, heart murmurs, and I would take care of them and love them, so why should this deter us from getting this little girl??  These children’s entire adoptive process is usually 9-12 months!!  This was it! 
Through much prayer, soul searching, scripture reading, tears, arguments (ha ha), we know this is where our daughter is……China.  So pray with us for her safety until we are able to get her.  Pray for a speedy process, so she will not have to wait to get any medical attention she may need.  And please follow our journey with us….

Legacy of An Adopted Child

Once there were two women
Who never knew each other.
One you do not remember,
The other you call mother.

Two different lives
Shaped to make yours one,
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.

The first gave you life,
And the second taught you to live it.
And the first gave you a need for love,
And the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality.
The other gave you a name.
One gave you the seeds of talent,
The other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.

One gave you up,
It was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child,
And God led her straight to you.

And now you ask me through your tears,
The age old question through the years.
Heredity or environment, Which are you a product of?
Neither, my Darling, Neither,
Just two different kinds of love.

                                                              Author Unknown


  1. I love the poem Mandy! Awesome! Excited about watching how God works on this journey! Love you sister!! :)

  2. I love you both and I can not wait for your beautiful baby girl to arrive. Thank you in advance for all your efforts and hard work! I am very happy for you and the boys. I am looking forward to having another little cousin :0)

  3. Mandy-
    We are excited for you! We look forward to watching your journey to your precious daughter unfold!! I LOVE that poem...made me cry!
    Love and Prayers!
    Carrie Armstrong

  4. mandy & joey, she couldn't ask for a better set of loving parents, can't wait to see my little great neice.